Tune -up Tips
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Be at least as kind and forgiving to your partner as you would be with a houseguest
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Work at it every day whether you like it or not
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Fight with yourself before you fight with your partner- don’t make underhanded comments or hurtful remarks.
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Make time for warmpth , affection and sex becuase you wont find time for them
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Have regular discussions at least once a month and reconnect and see how things are going.
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make time for “us” time family time is not “couple time”
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Change things up even if movie nights is working, find some new and fun to do things
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Ocassionally, go all out with and adventuure of the ordinary
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Tell him  expressions of admiration and reinforcement daily, like when you were dating.
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Give yourslef a time out when angry, address issues when caalmer so you dont say something , you will reget
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Dont be afraid to go to a marriage professional.
Meanwhile, take a mini-marriage check
Below with your mate and check the health of your relationship
Were you often playful together?
We just have fun the two of us.
I feel comfortable telling most of my feelings to my partner /husband or wife.
I feel understood when my partner listens to me.
How we manage money as a couple is a strength in our relationship
Sex is a strength in our relationship
We understand and respect each others basic values.
If you found yourself disagreeing with one or more of these statements ,then its time to
investigate potential trouble spots.
INCLUDING EMPLOYING PROFESSIONAL HELP TO AVOID A MAJOR BREAKDOWN
The relationship you have with your partner needs work each and everyday, its not something that can come easy by any means. Each time your partnership comes into thoughts especially when the roles shift in the relationship this could be due to health or job or new baby or added stressors of caring for parents whose health is becoming fragile.
Sometimes family has an influence on our Partners and it can become a battleground for arguing and name calling and having to take sides and make a choice.
When you are feeling down inside and angry due to a habit or disagreement and it is becoming between the both of you, seek help before one of you turns to another person outside your marriage.